Monday, February 6, 2012

Well, This Isn't Good News...

A month ago, I joined in an effort to meet more people, cast a wider net, and maybe have something (someone) to look forward to every week.  However,'s annual Singles Survey just revealed what I have long felt (but felt somehow guilty admitting) ...  most single people are happy how they are.  40% aren't sure that they want to get married and 27% are sure that they do not want to get married. Only 12.7% of singles are actively looking for a relationship, but 46.8% aren't looking but would be open to it if they met the right person.


This strikes an interesting cord with me because of 2 major points:
  1. I do want to get married...someday. Knowing that only 1 in 3 single guys feels the same way is terrifying.
  2. But if I don't get married, that's totally fine.  I love my life.  I actually feel a little awkward on dating websites because I feel like it somehow communicates that I am not happy with my life.  I AM happy, though.  But sometimes I feel lazy or guilty for not "trying harder" to meet someone. 
Right now, my behavior falls somewhere in that 12.7%, but I really feel more like the 46.8% who just want the right person to come along naturally.  I truly want to be in a relationship again, but I don't want to have to try so hard to find it.  I want a Hollywood "meet cute." [a meet cute is a situation in which a future romantic couple meets for the first time in a way that is considered adorable, entertaining, or amusing] I always thought my "story of how we met" would be adorable and unique and engaging.  BUT - I know that isn't very realistic, so somehow I have guilt tripped myself into joining the online dating world.

Now, I have cancelled 2 dates last minute because I would rather cook at home and watch The Golden Girls, and I only successfully went on one Match date. I can recap that date for you in one sentence:  He didn't make me feel any negative feelings.

That's it. Not exactly a meet-cute...why do I do this to myself?!

For reference...some of my favorite meet cutes:


  1. That scene from Romeo & Juliet still melts my heart. You'll get your meet-cute, I know it :)

  2. My boyfriend of 3 years and I met on OK Cupid, but if anyone asks we just lie about it. People want to hear a good story as much as I want to tell one. Sometimes I met him in yoga, he often says he rescued me from a know. 

    Moral of the story: you can have your online match and your story, too, as long as you lie. 

  3. I feel like I am too lazy for online dating...I often find myself thinking I'd much rather sit at home and watch SVU or bake. I might be doomed lol 



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